Imagine you are stranded on a deserted
island in the middle of the ocean. You go about your daily activities, building
shelters, fishing and collecting food, but you have no one to share your
experiences with. No one understands what you are going through on a daily
basis, and you feel painfully cut off from society, alone and adrift in the
sea.
In many ways, inmates in prisons have the same feelings of isolation and loneliness while they are spending time behind bars. Though they have other inmates to talk to, they often feel cut off from society, voiceless and without anyone who cares about what they do.
Letter writing therapy helps to
alleviate these inmates' stressors and can help them reclaim their voices. By
having someone to communicate with, inmates get to share their stories of life
behind bars and talk to someone about their joys, worries and fears. In short,
letter writing therapy can be a lifeline for an inmate and make societal
reintegration a success.
Show
Someone Cares
When inmates are first imprisoned, they
may have misgivings about who will stand by and be supportive. Though friends
and family members may promise to visit regularly and write, many forget or
become unsupportive. As a result, the inmate feels forgotten, neglected and
often rejected by the people they loved most. It can be a painful and harrowing
experience.
Having someone to regularly talk to can
do wonders for an inmate's morale. Knowing that someone out there wants to listen
and communicate gives them something to look forward to during their stay in
prison.
Of course, many people feel that inmates
do not deserve to be shown care or compassion, especially those who commit
violent crimes, but remember that approximately half of the 216,000 federal
inmates locked up in the United States are convicted for drug-related crimes,
not violent ones. As these inmates strive to get clean, having a sympathetic
ear to talk to can be inspiring.
Stay
Connected
Prisons do not allow inmates to access
the Internet, which means they cannot easily keep up on current events or even
sporting events. Though they might be able to read a newspaper, they are
restricted to reading about whatever the newspaper feels is necessary to print,
which may not be in line with an inmate's personal interests.
Letter writing therapy helps inmates
maintain a constant connection to society and reminds them that they have not
been forgotten. Pen pals can exchange news, cheer on their favorite sports team
together and discuss both national and international events.
Studies have shown that inmates who stay
connected through letter writing have greater success in the rehabilitation
process and often have a lower recidivism rate. By remaining connected with the
outside world, inmates will see what they are missing out on and work harder to
become respectable members of society.
Share
Stories and Experiences
Life behind bars is anything but
glamorous. Televisions shows such as Prison
Break and Orange is the New Black
attempt to accurately portray life inside a prison, but the average person has
no real idea of what life is truly like behind bars.
By corresponding with an inmate, people
all over the country can learn what inmates go through on a daily basis. None
of it is scripted or watered down. Inmates want to share their true stories of
what they experience, how they feel and how their lives have forever changed.
For inmates, this can be very
therapeutic. They have the opportunity to tell their stories, detailing what
led to their eventual incarceration and what they do every day. Inmates often
like to talk about their families and loved ones as well as offer a rare
glimpse and what life is like in prison. Doing so will help inmates remember
that people on the outside have not forgotten about them. Someone out there is
listening.
Establish
Lasting Connections
For most inmates, returning to society
is difficult and challenging. Inmates on parole need to establish housing and
find employment quickly. Without friends or family to support them, it is
possible that they may end up back in prison once more.
Pen pals of inmates have become
instrumental in helping their inmate friends adjust to life in the normal
world. Pen pals can be references for their inmates and help them find a safe
place to live and look for a good job. Rather than feeling like they are
sinking, inmates have a life preserver in their pen pals.
Letter writing therapy can be a raft for
inmates stuck on their own deserted island, offering them a way back to
society. After all, they are still human, they still have feelings and they
still have plenty to say.
I got a chuckle out of this, but a letter from my recent pen pal in Oregon stated that she had to use the dictionary to decipher some of the multi syllable words I used. I never gave it much thought because I talk and write the way I feel.
ReplyDeleteBut I recall being told "look it up in the dictionary" growing up as a chore. She did it because she wanted to. Even when our lives seem mundane or we don't have much to say, we truly are making a difference. Write from the heart and you will often here "Its great to here from you" or "I was excited to hear from you" quite often. We are making a difference folks.